Client: Dear Counsellor! I don't know why but recently I feel like nobody really cares about me. I feel being left alone, ignored, neglected and as if everyone around me is just being so unjust. Please tell me what to do.
Counsellor: Dear client. I know how it feels to be in your state, but let me tell you that it is somehow normal to feel like that every now and then. This is part of our human experience and if dealt with in the right way, this emotional state can help us grow - to become the person that we want to become and to reach our goals faster. Now, in order for me to help you further, can you please tell me if you have any proof about your assumption that everyone around you is treating you unjustly.
Client: Well, to be honest, I actually don't have any proof at hand for the feelings that I have right now. All that I know is that the people around me seem like being in a bad mood these days and that they rather want to be alone than to be with me or with others. This may perhaps be the reason why I feel this way.
Counsellor: You are right. This behaviour of others makes you feel the way you feel. Perhaps, you have been neglected as a child when you were very young, which has caused a deep trauma within you. And which is often the case why you react so sensitively whenever you feel that others are not spending enough time with you. But let me tell you that right now whatever other people do is not because of you, it is because of them. They may have some things going on in their life to think and reflect upon, which is why they are in a serious mood and prefer to be alone - rather than being around others. And this is totally fine. Everyone feels like that every now and then. In fact, spending time alone is sometimes necessary in order to reconnect with oneself and to get a clear head by thinking and reflecting about everything and finding solutions or new ideas.
Client: Okay, but then why do I feel so awkward and what should I do with my feelings in this case?
Counsellor: You need to stop taking things offensively. Remember, nothing that others do is because of you, it's because of them. Everyone has a different story and is on a different journey. So what you are supposed to do with your feelings is to mind your own business and start focusing on your own well-being instead of constantly focusing on how other people are behaving. It's time for you now to spend some time with yourself and do what makes you happy and feel good about yourself. Do things that make you connect with yourself again and make you feel whole and complete in your own skin. No matter what that means for you. If it means for you to stay in bed covered under the blankets then do that. Or if you can reconnect with yourself by practicing an art or by spending time alone in nature, or by laying down in a forest, just do that! At the end of the day, the most important task for you is to do what makes you feel good again. Because when you feel good, your perspective about others will often be good too. You will be less likely to feel offensive by everything that others do.
Another important point that I need to mention here is that the very fact that you feel this way about people (neglected, ignored, left alone, or victimized) is a sign and an indication of what your spirit feels about you. Yes, about YOU! What you assume about others for treating you in a certain way is actually how you currently treat yourself. Just think about it and let me know if you understand what I mean.
Client: Oh yes! This can be so true. When I think about it, then I am realizing that in the past few days I've been neglectful towards my own well-being. Life has become a bit challenging recently, which is why I didn't get enough sleep and I didn't really find the time or should I say, the mood to take care of myself or to do what makes me happy. I'm also finding myself stressed out very often these days. I think I should start to relax more and to just let go of everything and allow myself to be in a more calm and peaceful state.
Counsellor: There you have it. I truly believe that once you have found and created more peace within yourself then the negative assumptions that you have about other people will fade away and you will feel more loved and cared for.
Client: That's true. I can feel the positive change already. I'm already feeling a bit more at peace right now after discussing my issue with you and now all of a sudden I start to remember the good things that these people actually did do for me in the past few days, which I perhaps somehow forgot and remember them now only. I already start feeling more love for them now. My love for them is now more than the negative feelings that I have for them.
Counsellor: Well, the fact that now only you became conscious of the good things that they did for you is because you were being blinded by your own false assumptions and negative state of mind. It was your spirit screaming at you - trying to catch your attention towards itself, and the more you ignored and neglected yourself, the more you felt that everyone else have ignored and neglected you. The longer you don't care for yourself, the more you feel that nobody cares for you.
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